Today, January 4th was my original due date and the date that my girls should have been born if they were full-term. This is the date that all evaluations are made on Kaitlyn's progress, as gestationally, she is 2 years old today and not 13 weeks ago which was her chronological birthday.
A month ago someone told my husband and I that it was so great Kaitlyn was 2 and was just fine. My husband said, well, she's really not 2 yet and she does still have issues. This person said that she's no longer a preemie and to forget about all that adjusted age stuff. preemies catch up by age 2.
I'm still reeling from this comment. Forget about it? Age 2! I've heard some of my micro-preemie moms say that they've heard that for every month the child is in the NICU that's how many years they should be given to catch up. Many times it's well past the due date that they are released, and that means that the child was extra sick and they have more catching up to do. If that's the case, Kaitlyn still has 2 more years of "catching up" to do. Pretend that she's "normal"... (as I'm cleaning up vomit and working a tiny bit of pea puree into her mouth hoping and praying she'll keep it down). What is "normal" anyway?
A month ago someone told my husband and I that it was so great Kaitlyn was 2 and was just fine. My husband said, well, she's really not 2 yet and she does still have issues. This person said that she's no longer a preemie and to forget about all that adjusted age stuff. preemies catch up by age 2.
I'm still reeling from this comment. Forget about it? Age 2! I've heard some of my micro-preemie moms say that they've heard that for every month the child is in the NICU that's how many years they should be given to catch up. Many times it's well past the due date that they are released, and that means that the child was extra sick and they have more catching up to do. If that's the case, Kaitlyn still has 2 more years of "catching up" to do. Pretend that she's "normal"... (as I'm cleaning up vomit and working a tiny bit of pea puree into her mouth hoping and praying she'll keep it down). What is "normal" anyway?
I've been feeling a bit down. Maybe it has to do with the fact that my house is freezing, we've had the worst rain storm today, I haven't left the house in 2 (or has it been 3) days? Don't they call this SAD (Season Disorder)?
Anyways, Happy birthday Kaitlyn and Corinne!
Anyways, Happy birthday Kaitlyn and Corinne!
A family walk on New Years Day
Thank you Auntie Lynn for this great outfit for Christmas! It fits perfectly!
6 comments:
Happy Birthday!!!
You know what... people have no idea, really! The truth is my son, Gavin, will probably NEVER "catch up." He's 3 yrs. 5 mos. and has multiple disabilities. It just goes to show you how little most people know about prematurity. I really think some people shuold refrain from speaking about things they have no clue about. Sorry to sound so hostile. I'm glad Kaitlyn is doing so well developmentally. She's precious! Happy Due Date Birthday Little One!
Happy DD B-day! Liz, I'm sorry you are feeling down. Just thinkin' about you :) Hugs.
Shannon in Austin
"Your look-alike" :)
Just posted today on something similar - Morons are out there roaming the streets, I swear.
Happy birthday (sort of) Kaitlyn! Your sister is watching you :)
Happy birthday Kaitlyn and Corinne! Found your blog while researching feeding issues for my preemie twin girls. Kind of disheartening to know that even at 2 they may still have issues...
http://natandabby.blogspot.com if you're interested in checking out our blog.
ugh! don't you just want to shake people sometimes?
our kids are always preemies...they have earned that title issues or no.
a belated adjusted birthday wish to your angels in heaven and on earth. i consider it an honor to have even a tiny glimpse.
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